Who Should I Spend My Life With?
Focus on what matters, not the superficial...
28.08.2023 - Entry No. 2
When trying to find your life partner, attraction is important: attraction in the physical sense, but more far more importantly in the internal sense.
The person you spend your life with should be someone who shares the same foundational values as you. You should naturally be aiming at the same target before you even speak or meet. Then a relationship can be formed with confidence as you are heading in the same direction anyway - you can join and support one another for the ride.
It doesn’t matter if you see someone who society would deem to be incredibly attractive - one: because beauty is in the eye of the beholder; but two - because what matters more is do they have the morals, values, and beliefs that you do? Remember though, it is unrealistic to expect someone to line up with you entirely, some variation and perspective is good - it enables challenge and growth for each other. But, there is no point getting into a relationship with someone who is materialistic, if you are a minimalist. There is no point getting into a relationship if they like to drink and party, whilst you would prefer to immerse yourself in nature. Do not try to, or believe you can, change a person you find physically attractive into someone who you can find internally endearing. You should be aiming at the same target before you get together.
Nate